There are a lot of taboos we have in our daily lives. Things to keep the peace and prevent uncomfortable interactions. But the downside is that we end up very isolated and can even create elaborate personas for ourselves that do not katch the inside. Sometimes I can't tell what is the real from the persona. Maybe I shouldn't try. My counselor encourages me to integrate myself and accept all tye aspects of who I am. But that's hard when some things are clearly not welcomed by others. It reinforces those are things to keep hidden.
On a tangent to this, lots of people love to coopt technical terminology so fwr that it looses meaning. Examples are depressed, not the same as depression. Having anxiety not the same as having an anxiety disorder. Trauma is largely in the mind of the traumatized, so it's hard to tell someone what is and isn't. But when people muddy up the water, it makes it much more difficult for those of us who need help to get it.
When I was first diagnosed with an autoimmune condition that manifests as allergies, I was shocked that my tests showed 4 times the normal levels. Yet I didn't feel that bad. The doctor said that was common of severely allwrgic people. They live with it so much they become accustomed to it. He said it's those with barely a reaction that complain the most. Similarly, doctors know if you say you have a high pain tolerance, you probably don't.
Unfortunately, there aren't such concrete tests for psychological issues. So I guess I'll just keep being quiet about it with most people..."yeah, I'm ok." And most will probably not ever ask or say much else either.
But look in my eyes and if you know, you'll know, and I'll know you.
